I can confidently say here and now that there are no people alive on this Earth today who have never made a mistake, never done something that they later regret: we’re all human, and true to the expression, ‘nobody’s perfect’. All too often, we find ourselves gazing aimlessly into space, mind wandering, thinking about what might have happened – what might have been -, if only…
The word ‘if’ is a dangerous one, if you ask me; it can lead us to think that, at some point in our life, we did something wrong, stupid and nonsensicle, and if we’d only not done it, things would be different, things would be better. I myself am not exempt from this sweeping statement – not by a long shot. There are hundreds of things that I’ve done which I’ve looked back upon and, in hindsight, regretted, because if I hadn’t done them, things might have been different.
Stop, however, and consider this: they say things happen for a reason, and for once, I believe them [whoever ‘they’ are]. Life’s too short for regret, for every moment wishing you’d acted differently is another moment of an all-too-short life that you’ll never get back, never be able to use towards your next ‘what if’. Everything – absolutely everything – has its positives and its negatives, and humans seem to have a tendancy of immediately jumping to the less optimistic of the available viewpoints on a situation when reflecting upon them.
Even now, I’m sitting here in the middle of the night. It’s silent around me, and there’s a breath of air trickling in through my open window. The usual hum of traffic is missing, but it’s beautiful, somehow. And i’m thinking…
What if I hadn’t said that?
What if I had?
What if I hadn’t done that?
what if I had?
What if we hadn’t stayed up until 3 that night in Brighton?
What if I hadn’t sent that text that night, before blocking his number?
What if I had said how I felt, sat on that train platform what seems like years ago, but in reality, it can’t have been any more than six months?
Living a life of regret isn’t the way forward. Live for the moment, live for today, live for now, because who knows when your next ‘what if’ will present itself.